How are you dealing with your wedding planning stress? Not so good?
Have your friends ever accused you of having a Type-A personality?
Not sure, how to manage both the wedding planning stress AND the stress that piles on from being stressed about wedding planning?
Yeah, your friends are probably right.
You have a Type-A personality.
Let me explain…
What is a Type-A personality?
We’re talking about psychological research done by cardiologists Friedman and Rosenman in regard to people’s reactions to stress.
Psychological research that was done by cardiologists?
Yep, that’s what I said
They actually stumbled across the idea of different stress-types on accident!
|Side note: If you’re interested to read more about it, check out this story!|
Anyways, what they found is that people handle stress quite differently and that those people could be divided into Type-A and Type-B.
Less commonly, there is also mention of Type-C, but we’ll just disregard them for right now.
To be correct though, while it’s common to say Type-A “personality”, the correct term is “Type-A Behavioral Pattern”.
So what does it mean to have a Type A Behavioral Pattern?
People with this type of reaction to stress tend to also:
- Be very competitive
- Have a sense of urgency
- Be quick to anger
So, let me ask you this?
Is wedding planning stress starting to affect your entire life??
Or like I said earlier…
Do you feel you’re stuck in a vicious cycle of getting stressed out, naturally reacting to your stress, which in turn stresses you out more?
If the above is true, you definitely have a Type-A personality.
I know this because you’re definitely not the alternative type…
On the opposite side of the spectrum, those with Type-B Behavioral Patterns tend to be more laid back, sort of “Que sera, sera” when dealing with wedding planning stress.
Nope… that doesn’t describe you or me!
In today’s society, it’s common for people to believe Type-B is good and Type-A is bad.
I mean, when have you ever heard someone say, “Oh, you’re so Type-B”? Never, that’s when.
But, I’ve got a different opinion on the subject.
Who would ever want to be a Type-A? Everybody!
First of all, you don’t really choose to be one or the other. It’s just who you are.
And sure, if you take things at face value being competitive, easy to anger, and wanting everything done right away doesn’t sound much fun.
Type-A people typically experience high levels of stress, anxiety, and a higher risk of heart disease.
So again, you probably wonder why I said that everybody should want to be a Type-A.
Especially when it comes to dealing with wedding planning stress.
To begin, it’s probably best to just accept that things are the way they are.
That means saying “Yes, I am a Type-A person…
…who is also planning a wedding?!”
You’re ok. Acceptance is the first step.
Now, neither one of these realizations is easy to deal with but both can be a whole lot easier if you use what your momma gave ya’.
Instead of thinking of your natural tendencies as obstacles that must be overcome, you can use them to your advantage in overcoming wedding planning stress.
With that said, let’s explore how to do that by taking the three main characteristics of a Type-A personality and discussing how to use them in your favor.
Deal With Wedding Planning Stress By Using Your Type-A Personality to Your Advantage
1. Be very competitive
You want to be the best.
By extension, that means you want the best of the best.
Use that drive when you do your research on vendors and services.
Take it upon yourself to find the vendors that best fit your wedding vibe, your style, your personality, AND your wedding budget.
Don’t settle for anything less.
And, when it’s time to make the final decision, pride yourself on getting it done and feeling good about your research.
This way, once you’ve made your decision, you’ll feel comfortable sticking with it and moving on to the next thing on your wedding to-do list.
Make wedding planning stress the enemy and don’t let them win!
2. Have a sense of urgency
This will help you with being competitive, but be a hindrance when it comes to being quick to anger.
The good thing is that you will likely have a detailed wedding planning timeline of when you need to have things done.
When push comes to shove, prioritize this wedding planning timeline over the need to find the best of the best for everything because there are some things that will simply NEED to be done at a certain time.
But, of course, it won’t come to this, because you’re too competitive to get stuck in this trap 😉
By staying competitive with your wedding timeline is the best way to have your natural sense of urgency work for you.
When you stay on top of your well thought out wedding planning timeline, wedding planning stress won’t have time to sneak into your life.
3. Be quick to anger
Okay, I admit it is not easy to see the good in this. But I bet you will if you try.
The way I like to look at it is that, sure, you can be quick to anger.
But how about you let yourself feel all the other emotions just as quickly and deeply?
Happiness, gratitude, love, inspiration, awe.
Imagine if you can feel all those emotions as quickly and deeply as anger!
It will make the world of difference in your own life as well as in the lives of those around you – your fiancé, your family, your friends, and all the vendors you come in contact with.
Overall, I’d say you’re pretty lucky to be a Type-A person now that you know how to use it to your advantage handling wedding planning stress.
Just think of all those poor Type-B fools that lay around all relaxed and have to pick from what we Type-A’s leave them once they “get around to it”
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